an hour of summer
After attending the morning mass, I opened my laptop and started browsing through my files of movies and was surprised that I have a copy of 500 Days of Summer. Its 7:30am and I found myself watching this movie. Though Tom (the protagonist) didn’t got what he want at the end of the movie but he learned that coincidence, that’s all anything ever is, nothing more than coincidence. And as for me, the movie taught me, life is full of uncertainty but life goes on.
The “Expectations VS Reality” scene is one of the parts of the movie that I like. It taught me a lot, and though it seems it’s so obvious in my day to day activities, I tend to forgot to separate expectations from reality thus leaving me with frustration and disappointments.
Also there’s this scene where Tom and Summer had an argument and Summer went to Tom’s place to apologize. And the line goes…
Tom: Look, we don’t have to put a label on it. That’s fine. I get it. But, you know, I just… I need some consistency.
Summer: I know.
Tom: I need to know that you’re not gonna wake up in the morning and feel differently.
Summer: And I can’t give you that. Nobody can.
This scene, It feels like a stone was thrown to me or someone slapped me and says “hey ian wake up!” It was stuck on my mind because it’s true! When we’re in a relationship or goes into a relationship, we can’t guarantee that we or they will feel the same the next day, but we hope they will. Many expect, and then get angry (hurt) when their expectations are not met (I know I did). But it’s not something anyone can promise, even if you get married.
To invest in something with no guarantee is scary, and it’s a risk we take. We have to earn it each and every day. And some days we will and some days we won’t, because some days it will have nothing to do with us, and I think it’s what makes relationships or pursuing a relationship so painful, so hard.
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After watching this mind, it made me think. Is my decision yesterday was right? Am I weighing things correctly and not just basing it on expectations vs. reality? And so today and the coming days, I will have to re-think and look back on things that happened and the decisions made. Yes, life is unfair and uncertain, but one thing is certain… I love her and she’s worth fighting for. With this, I hold onto my faith and believe in God’s words.
